8 Reasons Why I’m Not Afraid Of Being Single, I’m Afraid Of Being With A person Who Doesn’t Give A Damn About Me

Unfortunately, many people today choose to stay in bad, toxic relationships because they’re afraid of being lonely and criticized by others say "log kya kahenge". But, the truth is, being single is neither scary nor something you should be ashamed of, and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re lonely.

And I know being alone is better than a bad company. But after meeting many females who made me feel horrible about myself, I realized that it’s not being alone that’s scary, but being in a crappy relationship.

I know what it’s like to get hurt, and the last thing I want to do is put myself in that situation again.

Singlehood has helped me learn new things about myself and provided me with possibilities I never knew existed. It’s given me new perspectives on life and enabled me to explore the inner depths of my soul and to devote myself to self-love and self-growth.

Yet, I don’t want to get misunderstood. I’m not saying that love is worthless or that relationships are a waste of time, but that simply now it might not be the right time yet.

As for me, I can proudly say I’m not afraid of being single, I’m afraid of being with a person who doesn’t give a damn about me.

Here’s why:

 

1.   I’m not afraid of being by myself, I’m afraid of being with someone who doesn’t let me be myself.

I’m not afraid of enjoying my company. I’m afraid of being with a woman who doesn’t accept and cherish me for who I truly am. A lady who can’t accept my flaws and constantly tries to mold me into something she needs.

A lady who criticizes every step I make. A lady who makes me feel like nothing I do is ever good enough.

A lady who doesn’t let me do the things I enjoy doing and who disrespects my boundaries and limits my freedom. A woman who doesn’t let me be that straightforward, clumsy, funny, and sarcastic guy I am.

 

2.   I’m not afraid of spending time alone, I’m afraid of spending my time in bad company.

I’m not afraid of eating dinner at my place alone, or going to the cinema on my own, or going shopping for clothes by myself because I feel comfortable in my own skin and enjoy being on my own.

But, I’m afraid of doing all this with someone who doesn’t appreciate spending time with me. Someone who sees spending time with me as just one more obligation she has to fulfill.Someone who think I am just to earn for my family and that is my FARZ only. Someone with whom I share nothing in common.

 

3.   I’m not afraid of sleeping alone, I’m afraid of waking up next to a stranger.

I don’t mind going to bed and waking up alone, at least now, but I fear I’ll wake up one day and I won’t recognize the lady by my side whom I thought I knew so well. I fear she won’t be that charming, loving, bubbly, tender, and compassionate girl I fell in love with.

I fear to wake up next to a womn who has stopped loving and caring about me and to whom I no longer mean anything than just a genie to fulfill her wishes of lavish life and shopping.

 

4.   I’m not afraid of making mistakes, I’m afraid of being with the wrong guy.

Mistakes are a part of life, and oftentimes, they’re the most valuable lessons life can teach us. And I’m not afraid of my mistakes because they teach me what things I should or shouldn’t do to feel good about myself. The only mistake I’m scared of is being with the wrongperson.

The lady I’ll have to beg for her attention and love. The lady who will fool me with sweet words and promises. The lady who will have mixed feelings for me and who will wonder whether I’m worth settling down with.

 

5.   I’m not afraid of commitment, I’m afraid of making love without any feeling.

I don’t want to be with anyone who focuses more on financial than on emotional. A girl who is good in chores, but lacks genuine emotions, and who only cares about satisfying her needs. A girl who sees me more like an ATM than a person who has needs and desires.

I don’t want to give my life to anybody who doesn’t deserve anything I have to offer. A girl whom I’ll be attached to, but I won’t feel his warmth and love for me. A girl who’s only interested in my status or looks connecting with me, but never emotionally and mentally.

 

6.   I’m not afraid of conversations, I’m afraid of talking with a woman who doesn’t understand me.

I’m afraid of being with anyone who is only physically present when I’m talking to her, but who never listens carefully to what I have to tell her. A lady with whom I’ll have my plans, my dreams, my aspirations because we have nothing to share with each other.

A woman who criticizes and doesn’t respect my ideas, opinions, and attitudes, and who tries to convince me that she’s the one who always knows what’s true and what’s wrong.

I’m afraid of being with her who can’t make meaningful and interesting conversations.

 

7.   I’m not afraid of crying, I’m afraid of getting hurt.

Boys don't cry is a myth. Tears don’t make me less of a man – I don’t fear them. But, I’m afraid of being with her who won’t care to hurt my feelings and break my heart. A girl who will have the heart to fake and cheat on me. A girl who won’t be ashamed to make a pile of false promises and excuses when she messes things up.

I fear to be with her who won’t care about how I feel and who won’t treat me with the same amount of love, respect, and compassion I’ll treat her.

 

8.   I’m not afraid of being single, I’m afraid of being with her who doesn’t give a damn about me.

I’ve learned to enjoy my own company, but I fear to fully devote myself to a lady who doesn’t deserve even the smallest piece of me. A girl who only treats me as her option and never a priority. A girl who treats me with love and kindness only when she wants to get something from me or when she needs me to fulfill her show off.

I fear to be with her who doesn’t make me feel loved, calm and emotionally fulfilled. A girl who won’t be able to hear the unsaid thoughts, feel the emotions spoken without words, and reach to the deepest parts of my heart. A girl who won’t be brave enough to love and be proud of me and my achievements, and who won’t inspire me to become a better version of myself.